Obviously staying a victim to all of this was not going to serve me.
Bren, I too am leaving a marriage after 23 years.
If I did that to him, he would become enraged.
He constantly lied to me about everything and degraded me all of the time, constantly ripping apart my schoolwork and denying any of my accomplishments.
He still had the audacity to think he could stop me from getting married claiming that he did not divorce me.
I learned one thing in order to survive narcissistic abuse there is only one way to begin with:
He has 3 sexual harassment charges against him, he stalks his ex wife, uses the kids as pawns, blame shifts everyone else!
Narcissists live for getting an emotional rise out of you.